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A jilted bride has been left furious after her former fiance contacted her eight years on from leaving her on the morning of their wedding.

According to a post shared to Reddit, the woman has not “seen or talked to him” since the day of their nuptials when they went off to get ready.

Worse still, she said that “in the immediate aftermath his family told me they didn’t know his reason.” Eight years on, however, he has now reached out, via his brother, who approached his ex in the hospital where she works to explain his sibling needs “closure.”

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Stock image of a bride sitting outside a church. A jilted bride has been taken to Reddit after being contacted by her former fiance, eight years on from when he left her at the altar with no explanation.
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Although the vast majority of engagements end in marriage, it’s not entirely uncommon for people to break things off before the big day. A survey of 1,000 U.S. adults aged 20 to 60, commissioned by specialist gem-buyers WP Diamonds, found around 20 percent of all engagements were called off.

But while it’s one thing to call a halt to proceedings in the months and days leading up to it, breaking things off on the wedding day itself is something of a rarity.

Danielle Rothweiler, owner and lead wedding and event planner at Rothweiler Event Design, told Newsweek: “I have had a groom almost back out at the altar when he was asked to repeat ’till death do you part’ by the priest. He needed a 45-minute break to decide whether the marriage should happen.”

She added: “I also had a bride write a note to the other guy she was with who was in attendance at her wedding, saying that her vows meant nothing and that she really wanted to be with him.”

Rothweiler adds that “if there is any doubt whatsoever, just don’t get married.”

According to the Reddit post by _throw_away_229_, her ex-fiance’s sudden disappearance on their wedding day “destroyed” her at the time, and she is unsure whether she wants to revisit the experience. “I have no desire to have anything to do with him,” she wrote. “I can’t believe the nerve after all this time.”

Rothweiler recalls one similar experience she witnessed as a wedding planner.

“I had one couple call off the wedding with less than a week before the big day. He legit walked out on her with no reason,” she said. “They never spoke again and, frankly, I don’t think they ever should. Close that chapter and move on.”

Commenting on the Reddit post, Rothweiler said: “If she wants a specific reason and to talk, I would encourage her to go. But if she’s at a good place in her life and has moved on, she should turn down the request. What could he possibly say? More importantly, what does she need to hear and does she think he’s actually going to say that?”

That sentiment was echoed by many on social media. “You don’t owe him a thing,” tattoovamp wrote. “Do what is best for you and you alone.”

Deadlieststing commented: “He doesn’t want closure, he wants absolution…Maybe if he had done this in the immediate wake of leaving you at the altar… but he didn’t respect you enough to give it then.”

Pepsiloverdrinkscoke wrote: “‘Closure’ for who? Closure already happened when he left you. Nothing else needed,” while Standard_Range3732 added: “He probably still feels very guilty but thinks he’ll be better if she ‘forgives’ him.”

Newsweek contacted _throw_away_229_ for comment but could not verify the details.

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